Book 17: 《陽貨》 Yang Huo
《陽貨》 Passage 17.25
子曰:「唯女子與小人為難養也,近之則不孫,遠之則怨。」
Legge Translation (1861)
The Master said: "Of all people, girls and servants are the most difficult to behave to. If you are familiar with them, they lose their humility. If you maintain a reserve towards them, they are discontented."